You're lucky, stop complaining...

I want to tell a lot of mothers of children here on earth and those who are pregnant who have not gone through a loss of a child, you're lucky stop complaining. I hear pregnant moms complain about morning sickness, being tired, having to go to the bathroom all the time, as well as many other things that come with pregnancy. I want to tell those mothers to stop complaining and soak it all up, enjoy it all because you have no idea if it will be all ripped away from you. I would love to be pregnant again with the morning sickness every morning for 14 whole weeks (like I did before my son passed away at 18 weeks). I would give anything to have all of the problems pregnant mothers complain about. I want to ask them if they want to give it all up and lose everything that comes with it? That would mean no baby here on earth, no baby cuddles with hearing their cries or seeing them take a breath, would they stop complaining then? I know they mean nothing by this, but I just want to tell them soak it up, enjoy every minute, and cherish your baby as long as you can. It is these moment you cannot get back. I will admit I did complain a few times while I was pregnant, but looking back I know now I should have relished in those moments as for now I do not have them to experience.

As for the mothers who have children here on earth and have not experienced loss, I want to tell them to enjoy it as well. I cannot tell you how many times a mom complains about her child keeping her up all night, the whining, and child tantrums, and many more. I would give anything for my baby boy to wake me up at 2am and keep me up all night because of what ever reason. However, I am up at night not because my baby is crying and needs me, but I am crying and need him and cannot have him. I also want to tell parents not to be so quick to toss their child over to someone else as soon as they are around. You do not know when that last time would be you get to cuddle, listen to your baby, or even change their diaper. I am not saying never let anyone help you care for your child, but don't be so quick to "get rid of them" for a lack of better statement. It only takes a moment in time to change your life forever, don't do anything you could regret if they were gone. A child is a blessing, a gift from god and he gets to decide when their time is up here on earth. Their time on earth is not marked on a calendar, written in the sky, or even told to you, a child's time here on earth is a secret and you will never know if you have a short few weeks, or a lifetime with them. Enjoy your children in all forms, at all moments, pregnant or not, enjoy them as much as possible.